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Be happy for your friends when they find love and happiness. When you’re a single woman over 30 it can become increasingly difficult to deal with your singleness, especially as you attend yet another wedding or baby shower, and you watch the numbers of your single friends whittle down one by one. But you have to keep one thing in mind, your friends who find love were once in your shoes, now maybe the exact circumstances aren’t the same, but they were hoping to find love just like you.
We All Want to Find Love
So if you ever find yourself feeling envious of your friends who are married or in long-term relationships, just stop and take a deep breath. Remind yourself that you want the best for those in your life, wouldn’t you want them to be happy for you if you were in their shoes?
I don’t believe that there is anything that can replace love. There is no amount of work, education or volunteering on behalf of a good cause that can replace your desire for a mate. But you can take the time to enjoy what you do have.
We’re not going to live forever, at some point life will end for all of us. But I sincerely hope that once you come to the end of your life you will be happy with the fact that you lived fully in every moment.
How do you deal when everyone around you is getting married and having babies and you’re still single? Leave a comment and share your thoughts.
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No my friends actually went from one situation straight into another. They never had long desperate singledom or singledom at all (it took about a week for each) where nobody wanted them. They are plus sized women as well, bigger than me tbh, and older than me as well. They went straight from one long term thing to the next, they always talk about it, even when I ask them to stop, they don’t. Kinda hard to be happy for people like that. They seem like braggarts and like they have no respect for the fact I am miserable.
It sounds like the feelings of not being wanted and desperation are more the issue than whether or not your friends have had breaks in between relationships. It also sounds like you may need to ask yourself why you have friends who don’t seem to respect your boundaries? Being happy for friends and having people in your life who don’t respect your boundaries are not the same thing. But here’s the thing, being happy for your friends in relationships isn’t about them, it’s about you. Are you saying that because they’ve never experienced long bouts of singleness, they don’t deserve to be in a healthy and happy relationship? And it’s perfectly OK if you feel this way, I know I have. But in the end, frustration, jealousy, envy or whatever is causing you to feel this way only affects you.