photo creditI don’t have any hard and fast rules about first dates. And while I recommend making the first date an active one (a hike, a long walk in the city, etc…), sometimes dinner or chatting over a cup of coffee is best.
One of the biggest issues I see with women who are dating, especially in the early stages of a dating relationship, is that they date on the defense instead of the offense, and we’ve all been there. This is when you become so pre-occupied with the stuff that’s going on in your head that you hardly focus on getting to know the man who is sitting right in front of you. So, instead of listening and paying attention to him and being your most authentic beautiful self, you’re thinking about if your makeup is right, if your jeans are too tight or how your first name sounds with his last name. Like I said, we’ve all been there, but the most important thing is to be present and pay attention.
What is the Goal of a First Date, Anyway?
The main goal of a first date is simple: have fun and get to know the man who’s sitting in front of you, which will help you determine if you want to go on a second date with him. A first date is the time to let your light shine and allow your flirty, sexy side to come out. You are a woman, and while you are a smart, complicated and lovely creature, allow your womanly self to take the lead. This does not mean become something that you are not. If you’re not the type of woman to wear a dress and heels, don’t worry about it, just bring the best of who you are to the date, whatever that means for you. Let’s be real, men are very visual, so you obviously want to look appealing, but you can be beautiful and sexy in your own style and in your own way. Every man isn’t attracted to the same look, so don’t worry about whether or not you look like the woman at the table next to you.
Bring your A game, have a good time, and allow the rest to unfold.
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