There is nothing I hate worse than a person who doesn’t show another human being compassion. And I really hate it when a woman makes a mistake(s) in relationships with men, and other people pile on the “what I would’ve done” or “you should’ve done this or that” advice, as though that will make her situation any better. I was blessed to have really great girlfriends from a really young age, so I didn’t experience a lot of the caddy behavior between women, but we are our own worse critics.
He Was Her Favorite Mistake
When relationships don’t work out, a woman takes care of a man like he’s her child or if a woman is, God forbid, physically abused by a man, and it happens a few times, those experiences will hopefully compel her to examine her ability to discern the difference between a good man and the not so good. But it is equally important to understand and acknowledge the man’s role in your problem.
There is one thing that women are often told that drives me absolutely crazy out of my head, and that is “he took advantage of you because he could and you allowed it” or something to that effect. I’m not a violent person, but I want to smack people in the face every time I hear this stupid comment! I can’t even completely express the ire that is incited in me by this. You know what I call people who take advantage of someone or a situation simple because they can? Manipulators.
If you are a person with any kind of integrity, you don’t take advantage of someone simply because you think you can get away with it. You treat people right because it is the right thing to do. Period. If I have to explain this to you, you clearly have no integrity, plain and simple. I have to give men the side eye when they start talking about not calling a woman back because they just weren’t interested in her, but they would never neglect to call their job if they decided to take a day off.
Ladies, if you have a friend who is going through a hard time in her relationships with men and you can see she’s not making the best choices, be gentle and show some compassion. Because the reality is a woman will stay in a relationship that’s not the best for her until she gets tired, and it really doesn’t matter much what other people say. But it becomes a lot easier when your friends tell you the truth, compassionately and they support you all the way through it.
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